How I Recovered From the Murder of My Husband and a Two-Time Breast Cancer Diagnosis
My Mission is to Help You Rediscover Your Purpose and Move Forward Intentionally
I understand what you are going through. I have been in your shoes. After my husband was shot at our place of business by an employee he demoted, I had to mobilize fast. There was no time to think, no time to plan, it was all on me overnight. I went straight from stay-at-home mom to running a multi-million dollar business, solo parenting three daughters who were 9, 12 and 15 at the time and not to mention juggling new legal, financial and many other household related issues. There was no time for me, I was just playing whack a mole everyday. My daughters were struggling emotionally. My health started to suffer. My heart was racing constantly, I gained weight and didn’t have any time to spend with friends. About 2.5 years later, the fog finally lifted. I had fallen into a routine that was working for our family, the emotional health of my daughters had stabilized and I finally had time to focus on me. Then just as things were starting to become relatively normal, bam, breast cancer diagnosis round 2 hit. I thought I was finally catching a break. I had become a warrior by then and just soldiered on. I had beaten breast cancer once before, I knew I could do it again. I am sure you can relate to one or many of these events since you are here. The loss of your spouse/partner no matter how it happens just sucks. Welcome to the widow club! Adding my second cancer diagnosis on top was no picnic. Life can deal us plenty of lemons; it is what you do with them and how you make your lemonade that matters!
I spent time really thinking, digging and exploring what were my strengths and what was truly important to me. What would make my life matter and how I could continue on without my husband. Over a few years I worked with a therapist, an executive coach, a personal branding/business coach, medical doctors, holistic professionals, personal trainers. I also sought out support groups, read books, blogs, revamped how I cooked and shopped for food, changed my exercise regime, started meditating regularly, journaling daily, creating personal and professional boundaries and carved out time regularly for down time just for me. I know that sounds like a lot, and I didn’t take it all on at once, but with the help of my coaches I was able to identify, prioritize and execute a plan that was attainable and sustainable. My health has improved. I no longer have my heart racing. I am focused on my overall wellness through exercise, nutrition and mental well-being. I am planning for my future. My anxiety has decreased significantly and when it rears it’s ugly head, which it does, I now have skills and tools in place to handle it. I am laughing again, big belly laughs. I had not done that for a long time. I know that I am not done, but I am well on my way with a new mindset aimed at success. I knew I wanted to help other widows and cancer survivors on their journeys of rediscovery, so I enrolled in a certified coaching program and have been using that training in conjunction with all of my personal and professional life experiences to help others move forward with clarity and intention.
If you are ready to learn how you too can finally focus on yourself, rediscover your purpose and move forward intentionally, I would welcome the opportunity to work with you. Click on the button below to book a free Moving Forward Session to learn more.